Citygrrrl

He has an interesting question.

just a question for women - 30 (pdx)

ok, I need the advice of some single women looking for happy commited long term relationships. I have tried posting this in a the rants section and I usually just get mean people saying evil things to me. I figured I would post it where the woman are that I want answers from.

So my question/situation is that I find myself in my early 30’s with little to no relationship experience. I was hurt badly by someone i cared a great deal for around 20 and for a long time it made me overly cautious about giving my heart to another. I burried myself in my work and friends and travel and got over the pain but found myself kinda perma-single over the years. I guess what I want to know is how bad this looks to a woman. I know I am a loving giving man and I know that I want happiness and family and true intimacy with a best friend, but I feel like I did when I went to buy my first car. They told me that I couldnt get the credit to buy the car because I had no credit because no one had given me credit because I had no credit so therefore I couldnt get any credit. So I find myself a decade later still single and the last time I told a potential prospect that I had been single for the better part of a decade, she went running like I had just told her I was a serial killer. I guess what I’m asking is, is there hope for the guy with no “relationship credit”? Is an unexperienced man really that scary to you? Is there some base instinct that being single for this long sets off? I would appreciate any and all constructive advice or thoughts, thank you and please enjoy the cookies

I think I would feel a little leery of dating a guy who had been single for a decade. I don’t think it would be a deal breaker though.  Who knows what else is going with this guy. If he presents himself as damaged, he’s going to have a tough time of it I think.